Making my Home a Haven Update

Here are the pics of my anti-procrastination day!
The leftover containers were growing out of control! I had been saving all of my cottage cheese and Smart Balance containers and there were so many that when I'd put the clean ones up there I'd just hope none fell out and slam the doors shut as fast as I could. The cupboard is way above my head so it's difficult to keep straightened when there are that many items up there.
I put some leftover containers in the picnic basket for our weekly picnic. I put some of them in storage in case I make freezer jam this summer and need them. I filled one bag for my mom, who seems to run out of these containers quickly, and one bag is full of ones that I can toss or save for painting/craft project.

So much nicer! Less is better!

Our tiny pantry gets full of clutter quickly as it serves as our garage/utility room/pantry/cleaning closet.

Of course little Jer doesn't help matters as he always tries to sneak back there and rearrange my shelves!

Cereal and baking on top, snacks and miscellaneos, a shelf of mostly tomato products, and extra paper plates, party supplies and plastic utensils on the bottom.

Much cleaner and easier to find things!

Blessings to you as you straighten and organize your homes too!

Making My Home a Haven

Well, it's house-cleaning day again and it always seems like such a gigantic mess after the weekend. I'm not sure why, but it always does!

I usually do a couple loads of laundry on Monday, vaccuum, make bread, and straighten up the kitchen and house in general. Today I wanted to list a couple of projects that I've been putting off because if I promise to post pictures of them, I will be more likely to do them. Anti-procrastination! A blog is a great motivator for me!

So, in addition to general cleaning, I hope to:

1. Straighten and sort my jumbled cupboard full of plastic leftover containers.

2. Straighten up my tiny pantry that gets cluttered way too easily!

3. Organize and sort photos in our My Pictures file on our computer. Every couple of months I try to sort them to various folders so our photos don't get too out of control.

I'll post before and after pics of #1 and #2 later today!

Join me in making your home a haven!

A Good Debate!

Thanks to those of you who shared your thoughts on the education issue/debate. Those that commented are pretty firm in their convictions and provided good perspectives on both sides. Emotional issues like this are sometimes hard to talk about, but can be really good to talk about so that we can really sharpen each other. It really helped me to think through the reasons we have chosen what we have chosen so I will have a solid answer when my non-Christian friends and family begin asking me why we will be doing homeschooling. I have quite a few friends who are uncertain about homeschooling or who have asked me about it and I hope this debate/information gave them something to think about in their journey to discover where God is leading their family in this area! I love a rousing debate because nothing causes me to dig more, study more, and search out answers more than an issue I care passionately about!
I don't have time to address every comment, but I didn't find them offensive and appreciate everyone sharing!

And now......it's back to topics of homemaking and motherhood this week!

Toddler Oddities

The kids laying on a Spec House!

My dad and husband are building a "Spec House." While I'm not sure where the term comes from, I know it refers to a large building project where a carpenter/contractor builds a home with the hopes of selling it off for a large profit. It is not being built for anyone in particular, just as a business prospect.



Somewhere along the line Ali picked up this phrase (maybe from dinner conversations) and one day she shocked me by crying and pouting over her blanket and saying she wanted, "a Spec house." After much discussion, I figured out that she meant the blanket needs to be laid out perfectly, without a wrinkle or crease, flat on the bed or ground. So, for several months, she's insisted on a "Spec House" every time she takes a nap and sometimes when she goes to bed. Her grandpa gets a big kick out of this!



He also gets the biggest kick out of Jer, who has learned to say "elk" thanks to Grandpa. Jer says it often for Grandpa since it makes Grandpa smile proudly. One night, my dad was trying to get Jer to say it for one of his friends who was eating supper with us. There are two huge elk heads, and a moose head hanging in my parent's dining room. My dad must have tried to get him to say it 10 different times, but he wouldn't perform on the spot since he was busy eating pizza. Right after supper we all went to a school play at my mom's school. During the performance, when Jer should have been being quiet, he starting yelling, "ELK!" over and over and looking smugly at Grandpa. Kids!

The Gentle Mothering Support Group

So, how is everyone doing being gentle with their children? I find myself having good days and bad days, but still wanting to plug on and grow in this area. I found an excellent verse I'm planning to memorize. I would challenge you to do so as well, and let me know if you do!

Colossians 3:12

And so, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience;

Also, some tips for the week. I have found that I'm most likely to lose it and yell during nap time when I'm either wanting to take a nap or wanting some "quiet" alone time and Ali is incessantly bouncing the bed, chattering, singing, refusing to stop playing and go to sleep, etc. She's been down with a cold this week and has been taking good naps so it has been a nice week! However, when she bounces back with boundless energy, I'm going to really have to watch myself during nap times and try to ward off a Mommy Rant during that time. Here are my ideas:

*Go to bed by 11pm. If I get my sleep, I don't usually need a nap and will be way less irritable.

*Wear her out! Going to the park and on walks in the summer is a great way to get kids tired. Swimming lessons in July will help too!

*Give up my dire "NEED" to have her sleep. I'm putting together some concentration/skill building exercises for her thanks to the book "Mommy, Teach Me." If she absolutely won't take a nap, at least I can get some unwinding time by parking her at the kitchen table with some activities for her to do quietly. She will usually look at books for a long time on my bed at naptime too.

*Give her to Grammy! This is the best idea yet. With my mom home from school in the summer, I'm hoping to have some free babysitting more frequently now. As my pregnancy progresses, if I feel the desperate need for a long nap or some alone time, I'm sure my mom would let her come over for a couple of hours.

Other tips that seem to help promote Mommy Gentleness:

*Kristin suggested asking them if they need a hug when they are acting naughty or irritable

*My mom always tries to find an activity when Ali is starting to get naughty. She thinks part of the naughtiness or whining is just needing something to do. With lots of cold, rainy days recently the kids need extra motivation to find new games to play or craft activities to do.

Frugal Mind Games

If you are a frugal person, you are probably on top of your budget allowances for various areas of your life and think a lot about what things cost and how to get them cheaper or do without them. I'm wondering, are there any other frugal "weirdos" out there who continually play math games in their mind regarding costs of things? Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not obsessive about money or costs to the point of being unable to splurge or enjoy myself. But, I think it's kind of FUN, yes, enjoyable even, to do these little equations in my head or on my calculator.

For example:

Every time I use a cloth diaper I tell myself I'm saving 15 cents! Every time I use one of my new cloth diapers from the yard sale I tell myself that after only 16 uses per diaper, they will have paid for themselves at the yard sale price.

Every time I use my homemade laundry detergent (which is easy to make and works wonderfully), I'm saving at least 7 cents!

When we're sitting down to dinner sometimes my mind will try to figure out how much per person the food costs.

It now costs me 25 cents to drive to my parent's house and back (8/10ths of a mile).

My kids, being the huge eaters that they are, generally eat $1-$2 EACH, every day, just in snacks, not including meals.

I figure the new shirt my mom bought me costs me $1 per each wearing (17 wearings) until the baby comes. IF it lasts that long since it's very delicate fabric. If it does last for another future pregnancy or two then the cost of each wearing drops dramatically. If I were to ruin the shirt after only a few wearings it would have cost $5 or $6 each time I wore it!

My Crocs, which I love and wear EVERY day for a year, cost me 8 cents per day to wear.

When your toddler dumps all the juice in their sippy cup in the sandbox it's about 33 cents wasted!

When I'm at a pricey restaurant, I think to myself, "King Jo worked 2 and a half hours to pay for this one meal!"

My new hanging basket of flowers costs $4 a month to look beautiful on the patio! I was absolutely disgusted that the local store charged $3.59 per tiny petunia plant. Even though I had my own hanging basket and dirt, it cost around $15 to get 4 tiny plants!

Of course I don't want to become obsessive, thinking about things only in terms of cost but it's kind of a good thing to sit down once in a while and remind yourself what your purchases are costing on a daily, or per-use, basis. I've gotten lots of things in the past at "cheap" thrift store prices that I thought were a bargain and then never used. It's very helpful for me to sit and think about whether or not I really want to buy a certain article of clothing that may cost me a lot of money per wearing. It's very helpful for me as a wife, entrusted with a budget from my husband, to think about how I spend the money he works very hard for. Of course it's OUR money and I don't feel like he's cruel or tight-fisted with it, but I want to spend what he makes responsibly because it was earned through his sweat, calluses, smashed fingers, and straining muscles (he's a carpenter for those of you who don't know and he goes logging a lot in the summer).

So, the next time you are tempted to buy something impulsively, sit down and do a little bit of simple math. Will you really use it? How often will you use it? If you will use it regularly will it be worth the per-use cost of it?

Project Preparation

Most of the mamas-to-be I know make a list in the months or weeks of waiting of everything they would like to get accomplished before baby comes. Of course sometimes babies surprise you and come a lot sooner than you would expect. (Isn't that right, Mom? My mom had NO clothes, NOTHING ready, and didn't even know she was in labor when she went to the hospital and had me 6-8 weeks early after only 20 minutes. Dad almost missed it parking the car. My dad didn't even think she was really that pregnant since she had only gained 15 pounds and hardly had a belly. Doesn't that short labor story just make you sick? No fair! I was perfectly healthy, though small and went home the next day.)

So, back on the subject. Here is my list of things I would like to accomplish before Justus arrives. The first list is high priority/necessity stuff. The second list is the stuff I hope to accomplish, but if it doesn't get done, we can still live. What things were or are on your list before your child arrived/arrives?

High Priority

*Pack hospital bag and have a list of phone numbers ready for calls
*Pack a diaper bag for the kids with some changes of clothing/favorite toys for when they go to a friend's house during the labor
*Figure out what Justus' middle name will be
*Have baby clothing washed and sorted by size (I have a huge tub of 0-6 M boys clothes in my bedroom but it needs to be freshly washed and put in a dresser and sorted based on what we need first)
*Have Justus' baby scrapbook prepped and as much done ahead as possible
*Purchase a nice car seat (we sold our infant seat last year at a yard sale when we realized it was rated one of the cheaper, least-safe models. A friend recently offered me a Graco Snugride that has only been used by one child so we might not have to buy a pricey new one!) This same friend sold us a really nice bassinet for $20 which is already in our bedroom!
*Wash bassinet linens and baby blankets
*Get a van (obviously we won't have the van here "in the flesh" until our baby comes and my in-laws come to visit and bring it, but it is an important thing on my checklist. The fund is looking very good! We have to insure it this month.)
*Have baby boy announcements ready and envelopes stamped and addressed so that all we need to add is info and pictures
*Have my Fall newsletter prepped and ready with labels and stamps on envelopes and ready to go
*Have a large supply of thank-you notes on hand, whether homemade or purchased at yard sales or on clearances
*Have a huge pantry supply of easy, but healthy kids' snack foods (which will not only help the kids but help a ravenous nursing mama)
*Have at least 20 meals in my freezer for the tiring post-birth days
*Have a large diaper supply on hand (thanks to recent deals we have quite a few stocked up for Jer and for Justus). Thanks to diapers I've made, the generous loan of a bunch of high quality cloth diapers (thanks Heather!) and the Fuzzi Bunz I recently got at a yard sale, Justus should be taken care of in this area!
*Stock the nursery with plenty of snacks, cups, kleenex, and diapers so I won't have to think about that right after having a newborn. Make sure that I don't get scheduled during August and September for nursery duty.
*Stock the household with necessities. (Thanks to freebies at Walgreens this is pretty much done. I may just need to load up on toliet paper and paper plates, but we have enough toothpaste, medicine, make-up, body wash, and razors to last us a year!


Lesser Priority

*Make enough homemade laundry detergent to last us the rest of the year. (Will probably only take 10 minutes!)
*Have relatives birthday cards ready to go and in my binder so they just need to be mailed on the right days. We have lots of August and September birthdays!
*Have Jer's wooden name letters painted and hung on the wall
*Update my clothing inventory, writing down the clothes each of the kids have for the fall so that I can know what I might need to look for at yard sales this summer
*Have a Big Brother and Big Sister gift ready to give the kids when they meet baby Justus so they will feel important too (Last time Ali got a little doll carrier/car seat with a new little baby boy doll from Grammy and that doll's name is still Jeremiah after 2 years!)
*Pack up my Sewing Corner of the living room and convert it into a Baby station where we can store a car seat, diaper bag, diapers, and toys for tiny babies (I won't be sewing for a few months anyway!)
*Organize our bedroom to try and have more space in there since we will be sharing it with a little one again.
*Make up a bunch of learning centers/projects for Ali to access so she can work on the Small Beginnings exercises when I'm nursing the baby. (Project ideas taken from the excellent book, "Mommy, Teach Me!" by Barbara Curtis.
*Make a Chore Chart with Ali that she becomes accustomed to so that when the baby comes, her daily chores will be habit for her.
*See if Jer is remotely interested in trying to go potty on the potty chair. I'm guessing no.

Making my Home a Haven Monday

Making my home a haven today is all about survival. It's all about how to get a million and one things done while trying to watch 4 kids and keep them clean, fed, and ALIVE! It's all about forgetting the housework and dishes just to try to control as much other chaos as I can.

While this temporary babysitting thing is over today (Yeah!) and wasn't as bad as I thought due to Junior being an angel baby, and his sister being a pretty nice girl who keeps Ali entertained, it still wasn't easy. The extra cash will sure come in handy and will more than cover the money we spent shopping in Billings. My Friday turned out so much better than I could have imagined in spite of the many commitments I had. I've discovered that getting out with 4 kids is not only possible, it is ESSENTIAL! I somehow squeezed 4 carseats into my tiny Honda, with the 6 year old riding in the front (her mom said it was okay) to go to the park and a potluck lunch with friends on Friday. Today, I didn't have car seats but quickly realized that I would lose my sanity if the kids kept running up and down the halls screaming and riding scooters wildly so I hauled out my strollers and took them to the park about a mile away. Jenna pushed her baby brother in the little umbrella stroller and I pushed my kids in the double jogger. On the way home, I thought it would be great for Ali to run off some energy so the girls both walked and I pushed the boys. Nothing kills time when you are babysitting then taking them to the park!

I have to say that as much as I love and adore my own kids and being a mom, I'm so thankful I don't have 4 right now. Of course if I had 4 I know it would be different because they would be my own and we would settle into a routine of sorts and they would know the rules and how the household works, etc. I know kids are a blessing and of course someday I hope to have 4 of my own or more. But 2 seems like a piece of cake after watching 4 and I'm not prepared for those levels of chaos on a regular basis yet. Have you ever noticed how mothering is like weight training? One baby feels so hard and so exhausting at first but once you get in the swing of things it feels easy and you decide to have another. And so on, and so on. You build up your strength, experience, tolerance for baby body fluids, etc.

This babysitting experiment has really enforced to me the NEED of mamas and daddies to watch their own kids. I realize there are extreme circumstances where this may be impossible and in those cases, it's such a blessing when a grandparent, relative, or woman who is gifted in this area can take up the slack. But I will say from a caregiver's perspective that caregiver's do NOT really care about your kids. Now, maybe I'm just less patient than most or maybe I'm just pregnant but even when Jenna and Daniel Junior are being the most amazing kids ever and even though the little guy is just as cute as a bug's ear, I have absolutely no natural affection for them or bond that makes the rough times bearable. I don't know how to comfort him or to tell what he needs when he gets fussy, I don't have the desire to deal with him when is sick and has a green snotty nose and I don't know how to tell if he's really sick or just tired. The truth is that the caregiver (who has kids of their own) will always care more about their own kids and will often feel a bit resentful of the time they are spending wiping other people's children's noses and bottoms. It doesn't matter how much you pay the caregiver or how much they like kids. It is very difficult to have patience, gentleness and love with your own children but I can assure you it is HARDER to have it with other people's children and though I have not hurt other people's children I can see how it would be soooo easy for caregivers to become abusive or just mean-spirited. Even the caregiver who is kind and sweet will still not have the tender, loving, scoop-you-up-and-hold you-for-the-joy-of-loving-you way that only a Mama or Daddy has. This is why I personally feel it is SO IMPORTANT for the parents to take care of the kids. There's also the issue of what the caregiver is teaching your child too (both in their words and actions).

Most people look at me and think I'd be the perfect caregiver. I've had scores of babysitting experience, years and years of children's ministry and missions, and I love being a mom, wear the long dresses and look like the very conservative, 1950s-homemaker-next-door. Of course you who know me or read my blog know better. I'm just saying that if I, who look like a stereotypical "good babysitter" have a hard time being a daycare person, than you better really be careful who you ask to care for your precious treasures and you'd better know them inside and out.

Now that I've convinced all of my blog readers I must be some horrible ogre of an ax-murderer babysitter or something...I'll sign off and try to go make my home as haven-like as possible with kids everywhere.

Yard Sale Treasures!!!

Above: Jer outgrew his other Crocs so I was delighted to find a pair in his size for 50 cents. Is it sacriligious that I bought a pair of Robeez when I make my own leather baby shoes? I couldn't pass up this pair for 50 cents for Justus and plan to try to copy the cute mocassin design.


I haven't been yard sale-ing in a few weeks with all the busy stuff we've done in May. So, it was wonderful to be able to find a ton of steals today. I took both kids and was only gone an hour. Instead of biking, I ended up driving but made sure to go to sales close to home. Here are some of my finds!

These baskets were about 5 cents each and the vases were free. Great for gifts!

The find of a lifetime: Like-New Fuzzi Bunz!!! Remember how I started sewing my own because I couldn't even win an e-bay auction on them? The folks I bought them from had lots of cloth diapers (they were NOLSies) and they had decided after about 6 months of using them that they couldn't take the icky-ness of cloth diapers. They sold me these 8 medium ones for $20 (the cost of one new Fuzzi Bunz!) The medium ones still fit Jer and they are better fitting than my homemade ones, lighter weight, and seem to control leaks really well! Yeah hurray!

These are two large fleece tie-quilts for Ali. She sleeps with the two she received as baby gifts but if there is an accident in the middle of the night we're wishing she had some more. These were 50 cents each (about 1/20th of the cost it would be to make one!) and look like they've hardly, if ever, been used.

Someone poured a ton of work into these beautiful little hand-embroidered, lacy burp bloths. They were brand new and only 5 cents. They'll go in my gift stash for baby gifts. I also got a few like-new receiving blankets with these that I plan to use to "wrap" baby gifts for friend's baby showers.

This little Carter's romper still has the tags on it. They didn't charge me anything for it, perhaps since I bought a bunch of their Fuzzi Bunz.

At one sale, the woman said everything on one table was FREE and all the clothes were FREE. Since Lupe has mentioned needing new clothing for her girls, I snagged about 10 really cute things in the girl's sizes, some of which looked new. Also these winter mittens for Ali and I and some flashcards for my mom.

Keeping Kids Immobile

All smiling! Shh! Don't tell the mom of the boy in the pink sweater what he's wearing! It was the only jacket we had on hand that fit!

Group hug! Poor Carsen is surrounded by girls!

King Jo juggles balls to entertain the kids.

Out for a walk!

It was our turn for the baby-sitting co-op last night and it was quite an adventure keeping track of the 6 little ones in an only partially-fenced yard. They had a blast running around all over. When my hubby and I decided our eyes needed a break from watching and counting them, we decided to do the thing that affords any parent a few minutes of peace. Get the kids immobile! There is such relief in strapping a mobile little one into a high-chair, wagon, stroller, car seat, etc. sometimes, knowing they can't escape or wiggle much! We decided a walk would be fun and we managed to squeeze the four tiniest kids in our wagon and the bigger two in our double stroller. We went for a nice walk around the neighborhood and got plenty of looks from people driving by!

I ended up skipping Walgreens (boo-hoo that I missed the great coupon) but my day actually wasn't as crazy as I thought it would be and the 2 other kids I babysat all day were little angels. I was VERY tired by the end of it and slept like a rock last night!

Pregnancy Brain

Lately I've been suffering from pregnancy brain. Those of you who have been there know that it can feel like aliens snatched your fully-functioning mind and replaced it with something that's more than "a few fries short of a Happy Meal."

I've caught myself in impossible scheduling conflicts at times due to my inability to simply remember what I've scheduled for myself. No SAHM should feel this busy some days but when you have said yes to several committments that are supposed to happen all at the same time, then the panic hits! The sad thing is this isn't something I've done just once. It's happened at least 3 or 4 times in the last month resulting in embarrassing situations and extra phone calls where I have to explain that I can't do what I originally said I could do.

So, I guess I'll have to let you know how I survive tomorrow! Let's just say that it will probably involve cancelling a Walgreens trip that could produced some amazing bargains, and I will be babysitting a total of 6 different kids throughout the day, not including my own, in addition to a couple of other things that are planned (park playdate and lunch potluck). If only my brain would actually WORK when I'm pregnant so I could stop doing this to myself!

Walgreens Goodies

I don't have a pic of my stuff since I did the unthinkable and forgot my camera on our trip to Billings, but I did get a nice haul of stuff on Friday at Walgreens.

Here's what I got:

2 Boxes of sidewalk chalks
3 jars of Miracle Bubbles
8-pack of AA batteries
2 containers of baby wipes
1 large bottle of children's mouthwash (free-after-rebate item)
1 Schick Quattro Intuition Razor
2 boxes of anti-bacterial wet ones (24 individual packets per box)

With all the coupons and the special Friday-only $5 off a $20 purchase, I SHOULD have received all of this for around $4.50 after I get the rebate back on my mouthwash. But, the cashier goofed and voided my $5 coupon so I paid $15 and will get $5 back. However, I plan to bring this to their attention on my next trip and hopefully get $5 in cash back. Even if they somehow refused to give me the money back, I really only paid less than a dollar for everything, which is a super deal, considering these items would have cost at least $32 in our town and we will use everything.

*Alert* For those of you friends needing ink for your printers, I noticed this week they are doing refills half off so that would mean a black refill for only $5! Also, tomorrow, Friday the 30th, there is a super coupon out for $10 off a $30 purchase. You can stock up on June Free-After-Rebates and use this coupon to get paid to buy these things. Or, you could buy a few packages of diapers, use diaper coupons and the super coupon and end up paying $5 a package for Huggies or Pampers.

Motherhood Maternity

Justus is growing, and so is my fatigue!
These pics were taken with the self-timer on my camera so they are at a weird angle.

I mentioned in my trip update that I FINALLY found a long skirt to wear while I'm pregnant. Yeah hurray! In every store I looked it, there were NO maternity skirts, except the occasional mini-skirt. Even in a maternity store, Motherhood Maternity, there were only a couple of choices, a denim and a khaki and only ONE in my size. But I am thankful to have found a pretty outfit that will be cool for summer and will last through any future pregnancies too. If I had a Motherhood Maternity nearby I sure would be tempted to spend, spend, spend because they have some darling clothes and I'm sure there are good sales sometimes. The skirt was well worth the money and my mom treated me to this pretty shirt that was on clearance. With my purchase they gave me a free goody bag and I was delighted to find it stuffed full of baby product coupons and samples. I got a free playtex baby bottle, a little bottle of baby lotion, a baby spoon, a travel bottle of pregnancy lotion, a small pregnancy nutrition bar, and some diaper cream samples among other things. Freebies are fun!



I was disappointed in the maternity/baby thrift shop in Billings. My friend who had lived near there and now lives in our town had given me $17 credit there, saying she wouldn't be back there to use it so I might as well. I've never had such a hard time spending free money! It was outrageous how much they wanted for used stuff. Maybe I'm just spoiled by our 25 cents an item thrift shop here in town but I refused to pay $5 for a used and dingy kid's shirt when I could get it new at Target for $3 or here in town for a quarter or less. I had asked her if I could get her something but her boys are pretty well stocked in clothes so it was up to me to spend that money and it was soooo hard! Everything maternity was not my style or size and was around $25. I would rather buy something at Motherhood Maternity NEW if they are going to charge that for used! Even the kids' used shoes seemed outrageously priced. I wandered the store for nearly an hour, and my hubby and kids tagged along, until I finally spotted some nursing undergarments which I could really use. I ended up paying a few bucks for one that was used but like-new since it was one of the few items in the store on clearance and bought one new one for the same price as I could have at Wal-Mart, but at least they were free due to the credit. I had to throw in a pair of boy's tennies at the last minute to make sure and spend all of her credit. So, it all worked out in the end and I only spent around $2 out-of-pocket there and I got a few things we can use but I will never be back to that store!

Graduating Parents

I had the priviledge of attending my cousin's graduation this weekend. It was a ceremony for the Homeschoolers of Eastern Montana. They had a godly judge from their state give the address, which was wonderful, and there were a couple of beautiful music specials from the graduates as well as a touching slide show of photos of the graduates growing up. It was so neat to attend a formal graduation service for homeschoolers. I came away with lots of ideas for when my own kids graduate (many, many years from now). The neatest part was at the end when each set of parents presented their diploma to their child and spoke for a minute about their child and told them how much they loved him/her. To say it was a tear-jerker is an understatement! My dad referred to it afterward as a "sentimental blow-out!" I was surprised my aunt and uncle were able to get through it as I know that I probably wouldn't have been able to in front of all of those people if it were my kid graduating. Many of the moms couldn't speak and let the dads do all the talking. It just struck me how blessed each of these 23 homeschooled high-school grads are to have such loving parents standing there, passing on a public, verbal blessing to them and assuring them of how much they love them.

So many graduations from public institutions are cold and unfeeling. Most people I know have their name butchered by the person reading it and don't have much of a relationship with their teachers/professors, etc. Even if one does happen to be close to a professor/teacher, that teacher doesn't have the wellspring of love for the graduate that his own parents have for him that has spanned a lifetime. I thought it was very fitting that after all the years of sacrifice, hardship, hard work, and pouring themselves into their children, these parents got to taste a bit of a reward in seeing their kids to this big milestone and being the ones to be able to hand them their diploma. Their efforts have really paid off, especially if their kids love the Lord and have character and virtue above academic success. Of course their job as parents isn't over; and in some ways has just begun, but one stage of life is over and another is beginning. I thought it was sweet how many of the husbands looked first to their wives and congratulated them on 13 years of homeschooling (some had even been doing it for 25 years!) and gave them the credit for their child's success. Many of the parents broke down crying as they told their child how much they loved him/her and many of the young men were headed for military service to protect our country with honor and a desire to be missionaries to their fellow soldiers. My uncle reminded my cousin to remember 3 things: Who she is, Whose she is, and Where she is going. He also said a brief prayer for her future. My aunt had a neat quote for her and talked about how she didn't feel she deserved such a wonderful daughter but was so thankful to have been blessed by God with Ashlee.

It was good for me to meet to be surrounded by godly parents who have reached the milestone of seeing kids through their school years and training them in the Lord. Sometimes being a parent is so frustrating and you forget about the end goals. I love being a mom and wouldn't trade it for the world and yet it can wear me to a frazzle when there are no days off and no breaks from my preschooler's energy! Even though our visit to our family's home was fun, there was all the stress of making sure they didn't break things, be too noisy, scream in restaurants or fight over things. For a minute one day I was tempted to have a little pity party and feel so sorry for myself because everyone else could just make their plans and go here and there shopping with no cares or take a nap or read a book but I felt like I was stuck since I had little kids to care for and had Ali constantly bouncing and chattering next to me and being hyper-active and interrupting conversations and slowing me down in the goals I wanted to accomplish shopping. I thought back to the days when I could go to the bathroom in privacy, have a long conversation with my aunt without interruptions, be a quiet guest in someone's home instead of a guest who brings chaos with her, and help out with the meals and dishes to bless the hostess instead of having to chase kids, clean kids, wipe kids' bottoms and supervise kids immediately after every meal. I thought back to the days when I could leisurely shop, not have to think about nap schedules, and not have to hear endless whining and crying on long car trips. The days before sippy cup spills, having to discipline your kids in front of other people, picking up endless clothing and toy messes, and the days where I could sit down for a complete meal without having to jump up a thousand times to get things for the kids.

Though I was tempted to have a pity party and wonder why I'm doing this all over again, starting from scratch in August when I'm already beyond busy with little ones, I reminded myself that these kids are gifts and blessings from God and He will give me the strength I need to get through the tough days. I know that pregnancy makes me more tired than anything else in life and things always look brighter after a good night of sleep. I know that these years will fly by and before you know it I'll be standing on a stage, handing my precious kids a diploma and sending them out of the nest, with sadness at how fast the years have gone. These years are physically exhausting but they are so important and I don't want to just wish them away because there are so many things to enjoy about having tiny and dependant kids.

We're Back!

I hope you all had a wonderful Memorial Day weekend. We had a great time in Billings seeing my sweet cousin graduate. We got to shop all kinds of fun stores we haven't seen in a year or more (Old Navy, Target, Motherhood Maternity, JC Penney, Michaels, etc.) but we still managed to not spend that much. I found the perfect denim maternity skirt that is very long, comfy and fashionable and was only $25 and should last through any future pregnancies too! I think Motherhood Maternity is my new favorite store when I'm pregnant, especially if they have a good sale!

We've been looking at stores all over and online for about 6 months, trying to find wooden letters in my son's name so he can have his name on the wall like sister has. We finally found them at Michaels' and they actually had all the letters (everywhere else we've looked they've been out of certain letters)!
We had great fellowship with my aunt and uncle and cousins. I don't think I've ever met a family who laughs as much as them. It's so much fun to be around them. They always make gourmet foods and love to linger over meals for a couple of hours, just visiting. My aunt made the best whole wheat pancakes with fresh-ground wheat and grape syrup made from the organic grapes in her garden! All of her meals were just amazing! We also got to enjoy one of our family's all-time favorite restaurants after church on Sunday: Olive Garden! The kids got to go to Zoo Montana yesterday and see some animals, which they enjoyed. All in all, it was still tons of work to travel with little ones and keep them from destroying my aunt's breakables, but they did very well and were very good for the most part. Just before leaving they each received a scratch on their left cheeks from the poor cat they were tormenting.

My mom and I drove back together, as my dad and King Jo had left a day earlier since they had to work, and we are the spaciest ditzes you have ever seen when we are gabbing in the car. We missed our exit and didn't realize it until an hour had passed, only to find out that there was no other way to fix the mistake than drive all the way back. So, our five hour drive with two squirming kids was stretched into an almost 8 hour drive by the time we took several potty breaks for my pregnant body and a supper break. We got home at 11pm in the pounding rain, neither one of us is even remotely good at night driving! Oh well, I guess we'll learn to pay more attention to road signs next time!

Frugal Friday--Tips for Being MORE Frugal at Walgreens

Some tips I have learned recently for shopping at Walgreens:

*ALWAYS, ALWAYS flip through your EasySaver booklet before you go up to check out at the register. Last week I got home and discovered that though I had gotten a great deal on batteries with a regular coupon, I could have saved $1 more if I had paid attention to the coupons in the Easy Saver booklet too. I also missed getting another good deal (Kotex pads for 50 cents) because I wasn't paying attention to the EasySaver coupons.

*Be very careful to get the exact items that the flyer says for RR deals. The past couple of times I have made mistakes on the ounces of toothpaste, etc. and it has caused some hassle with having to get the manager over there and confusing everyone.

*Pay attention to minor holiday sales. They often have free photo deals or great sales on holidays like Leap Day, Tax Day, Memorial Day, etc. Today they have a super good coupon out you can print off online to get $5 off a $20 purchase. Even though I already bought most of my Free-After-Rebate items for the month of May, I am going to hit Walgreens this afternoon since we'll be driving through on our way out of town for the weekend and am planning to get a big LOAD of great stuff for around $4.50 thanks to this extra coupon and some others I didn't use last time.

Modifying an Immodest Shirt

The overly-tight neckline!

Sewing a straight-stitch around the elastic and slightly gathering it.

This photo is a little blurry since I did a timed shot of myself but you can see the results of the modified shirt!

If you've ever been pregnant, you've probably gotten to the point of feeling like you have literally nothing to wear that fits, or nothing that looks remotely attractive. I love my two e-bay shirts, but I am starting to think people must think I should try wearing something different once in a while! So, when I spotted a beautiful maternity shirt at Wal-Mart, of all places, I was drawn to try it on. Usually our Wal-Mart just carries a few ugly t-shirts and a few pair of maternity pants and that's it. But, when the shirt fit, and I loved the look of it, I bought it even though, gasp, it wasn't on clearance and was more than I would normally ever pay for a shirt!

When I got it home, I just knew I would probably wear it almost everyday for the next few months because it was so cheery and pretty. That is, until I actually wore it and discovered, horror of horrors, that it was quite immodest! Sometimes, a quick look in the dressing room doesn't reveal how a shirt will fit when you are moving around, holding toddlers or bending over. While I had bought a size larger than my normal in the hopes that it would continue to fit even when my belly is at it's biggest, I hadn't realized that the neckline would make me so uncomfortable and would constantly shift to show my bra.



So, what did I do? I whipped out my needle and thread, unwilling to lose my new favorite shirt! I sewed carefully by hand around the elastic neckline and gently pulled on the thread to gather it so it would tighten up the neckline.



However, I under-estimated the power of a little gathering. I made the hole sooooo tight my head would barely go through it! When I did squeeze my head through, I noticed the bustline of the shirt was unnaturally high and so the shirt wasn't quite as attractive or comfortable.



So, I ripped out my stitches, and re-did my gathers, this time I didn't pull so tight and I started by doing the section between the shoulders. Then I slightly gathered each side from about front-middle up about 4 inches. I tried it on and PERFECTO! Not so tight that I can't get it in it, but not so loose that it will reveal more than it should. The bustline of the shirt falls in a flattering spot and all is well!


The moral of the story is: Buy clothes that are in your size, not a size above! Bend over, move around and wiggle in the dressing room so that you can see how a shirt shifts around. If you do have a neat shirt that you wish you could wear, but it has a low neckline, there are ways of fixing it. Sewing an underpiece across a V-neck or adding some lace or something can sometimes fix a shirt. It is as easy as pie to fix a gathered neckline like I just did. I also lifted the shoulders on one of my shirts by taking in an inch or two to raise the neckline.

Now I can wear a comfy, cool, MODEST blouse this summer without having to wear another shirt under it!

Good Deals this Week

There were some great deals going last week and this week so I made the trip over to the other town in order to hit them all. I figure the cereal and yogurt alone more than paid the gas for my trip because it would have cost that much just to buy them in our town.

What did I get?

Smith's had a deal where you get 4 boxes of cereal for $4. I had two, $2 off coupons for chocolate Honey Bunches of Oats so the cereal should have been completely free! I think my cashier dropped one of my coupons or it might have been stuck to the back of the other one because he only rang up one so I ended up paying 50 cents a box. Still a great deal! The LiveActive cereal was about 12 cents with an internet coupon.

I also did the Smith's Huggies deals where I got 3 packages, got $4 knocked off, and I used $4.50 in manufacter's coupons and sent in for the $5 Huggies rebate. It averages out to $5 per package.

The Corazona chips, which are delicious by the way, were absolutely free, with overage, thanks to a coupon I found on MoneySavingMom and printed off. Thanks for the tip Blasdels!

The Crunch Crisp bar was free with a coupon. I have to say I like the old Crunch bars better.

The Pert Plus will be free after rebate, the Old Spice bodywash was only about 10 cents due to the catalina and manufacter's coupon I had on it, and I got MORE Pro-Health toothpaste since it was still on sale, with a RR on it, and I had coupons too. Walgreens wipes were buy one, get one, so I got a couple boxes since that's a better deal than anything you will find in our town. Thanks to the Muir Glen coupon my friends told me about, these cans of organic tomatoes were 24 cents each. I also got 4 boxes of organic frozen veggies for only $1 each thanks to coupons. The Seventh Generation dishwashing liquid cost $1.50 after a catalina coupon I had on hand. I wanted to try it and needed dishwashing stuff and though I didn't get it FREE, it is still cheaper than buying a bottle of Palmolive.

I got a lot of other things not pictured, such as fruit, yogurt, and toliet paper, which were all way, way cheaper than the cost of buying it here in town. I also stocked up on some dried fruit, granola bars, and juices for the kids for our upcoming road trip to Billings this weekend.

Thanks for the Comments!

Just wanted to say that while I don't usually have time to do a lot of comment replies here, I appreciate each comment and do think them over. I appreciate the ideas for using "Tough Love" with the neighbors. It is truly impossible to not see them throughout the day just because of the living situation and how close in proximity we are. If we do laundry, (and I do lots of it) we will see them, if we walk to our cars or want to open the door for fresh air or if our kids play outside at all, they are there. So, as much as I would like to cut all ties with them some days, it's virtually impossible. I appreciate your ideas and thoughts on the subject and it's helped me to see more that being a loving Christian neighbor doesn't mean you can't have boundaries too.
Thanks!

Pregnancy Hormones Meet the Neighbors!!!

To say I was irritated with the neighbor girls today would be an understatement. To say I YELLED at them would be closer to the truth. It doesn't take much to push this pregnant woman to the limits anymore, and today was no exception. After watching them trying to get Jer to eat leaves, trying to trick Ali into eating Tabasco sauce on chips so it would burn her mouth, watching them pick Jer up and then drop him a few inches from the cement sidewalk on his head, and watch them destroying yet another one of our toys I had had enough! First, I sternly told them to NEVER, EVER pick Jeremiah up again. The next time, regarding the toy, I hollered at them to give it to me NOW when they balked. The third time, after they began running by my door yelling, "You're mean!" and telling Ali her mom was mean and being nasty to her, I totally lost it and hollered at them with a furious red face that I'd had enough of their lip and if they didn't quit I was going to tell their parents what little brats they are! I think I sufficiently scared them for a couple of hours at least.

I admit that I was fighting immature behavior with some immature behavior of my own. I do indeed have this Grizzly Bear Mama instinct that comes out when people hurt my kids and drive me nuts day after day. I'm not excusing my behavior and saying I reacted in all the right ways. I'm not saying that they pushed me into it because we are ALWAYS responsible for our actions and words no matter how others treat us and no matter how hormonal we are. (Remember the Calm Me Down concept of the Gentle Mothering posts? Remember how Scream-Free Parenting taught me not to let others control my emotional buttons?)

A part of me doesn't know what to do with these kids. Being firm with kids who have faced few consequences in their lives and habitually lie, manipulate, torment, and disobey is overwhelming at times. I want to be a godly witness in spite of the few times I've really blown it with them, and I want to be loving, but I hate to be around them when they are teaching my kids things I don't approve of and treating them like dirt. Ali came home saying "What the heck?" this week and though that may not seem like a big deal to some families, my husband was horrified! We were both beyond horrified to hear, "Oh my God" come out of her mouth thanks to the neighbor's saying it often.

Not too surprisingly, I am the second neighbor to get after the girls this week. They got the most severe tongue lashing of their entire lives on Saturday when a neighbor discovered they had her daughter's ballerina outfit and had trimmed it short, the very day of the pictures and the biggest dance recital in town. Apparently she screamed at them in such a way that their mother Lupe was driven to tears and told me later in Spanish that these people "needed a vacation" as they say in Mexico, if they were so upset they would holler at innocent children like that. I do understand the mom's fury when you consider ballet outfits probably run $100 and lessons aren't cheap either! I think that although the ballet thing wasn't intentional (the girls from Mexico didn't realize it was our neighbor Lola's outfit) this angry mom was still smarting from the fact that the girls had slashed her daughter's screen on her window with a butcher knife, cutting out a huge section of it, and had recently dumped a jug of bubble solution on her daughter's linoleum bedroom floor so they could all "ice-skate." They also roam her apartment continually when she's gone as she has a hang-up and refuses to lock it (it's a hippie-I-want-to-trust-people-thing) and I've told her they go in there all the time and probably eat her super expensive organic food but she still won't lock up.

Later tonight, after I'd cooled down a bit, I went out my back door to find the girls swinging wildly on our outdoor swing. They do this CONSTANTLY. I've told them and told them not to stand on top of the back of the swing and stand on the arms of the swing, but to no avail. So, I calmly and very sweetly told them I was giving the swing away and dismantled the swing part. They began using the frame as a set of monkey bars. As much as I wanted to scream and take a sledgehammer to the swing and throw it in the dumpster, I decided to let it go. After all, it has lasted us a few years and though we got it in new condition at a yard sale for $25, the neighbor kids and long winters have taken their toll on it and it's been patched up and no longer has a sun awning and isn't that attractive anymore. I moved the frame to their side of the tiny yard, to their great delight, so they could scream, holler, and throw each other violently off the bars in front of their parent's apartment instead of keeping my kids' awake by doing it in our yard, and decided to completely just LET IT GO! We now have nothing except a grill in our backyard thanks to the neighbors messing with or trying to destroy everything we have ever put back there. We've learned our lesson and keep everything inside, even our sandbox tub, except the bikes and double stroller in the front hallway (and we have made stern threats that they must NEVER touch them!) We've given away our sandbox, exercise bike, and yard toys, and have had to raise flower pots up to hanging pots and have to keep close tabs on our folding chairs. We never cease to find garbage and litter of all kinds in our back and front yard thanks to these girls.

I feel bad for the girls in a way because everywhere they go they seem to make enemies due to the lack of parenting that is so evident in their lives. When you don't give your kids boundaries, or refuse to enforce them, you are setting them up for heartache, failure, and angry people. Lupe, their mom, confided the other day that the older daughter has made her younger daughter's life completely miserable with her constant lies about her sister that get her into trouble with everyone. The older daughter feels that the younger girl (the baby of the family) is spoiled rotten and that her parents don't love her or want her. Perhaps this is why she continually lies to get her sister in trouble. If her sister says, "Daddy is guapo (handsome)" the older sister will tell the daddy that her sister said, "Daddy is stupid." The little one is very deceptive herself, but her life is a lot harder with a big sis like that! I often wonder how these girls will turn out.

In the meantime I pray for patience to endure the hot summer living next to them. We've been checking on rentals but the most recent lead we found was a small 2-bedroom home for $1,150 a month, exactly double what we pay now for a 2-bedroom apartment! The good news is that I don't think Lupe could bear the thought of being around her girls all day either and so she signed them up for as much summer school and swimming lessons and soccer activities as possible so they shouldn't be around as much as I thought they would be originally. Hopefully I can find a way to help them go to 5-Day Club this summer which would be really cool.

A Word Fitly Spoken

Here's my side shot at 27 weeks! Alathia enjoys kissing baby Justus and he kicked hard right at the moment this shot was taken. I'm officially in the home stretch AKA the last trimester where fatigue and discomfort reign. With all the summer activities I know this last few months will fly by faster than ever before! I'm still feeling pretty great.

Have you ever been encouraged unexpectedly by a wise comment from someone? The other day at church I was juggling my kids and herding them into the building when an older woman passed by, must have noticed my big belly for the first time and said, "Oh, I see God is blessing you with another wee one!"

This comment really surprised me, but I found it to be such a good reminder. While we haven't gotten really negative comments necessarily this time around, we've gotten plenty of, "You'll be so busy!" "What were you thinking?" "Your kids are sooooo close!" "I couldn't do it. How are you ever going to handle three?" and, "You do know how this happens right?" It was surprising when someone said something different, yet so true, and so refreshing. Sometimes I'm tempted to believe everyone's comments and wonder if everyone just thinks we're young and "irresponsible" for having so many children so quickly in a world that doesn't do that. Not to mention we don't own a home yet and King Jo doesn't plan to work his job permanently so career changes are likely ahead in the next couple of years. Sometimes on those rough days with whining or fussing kids I begin to believe that when another kid joins the mix, it's going to be chaotic and awful.

This is why it's good for me to be reminded that GOD, the author of life, saw fit to bless us at THIS particular time with another baby. We weren't trying to have one but we were open to the possibility, and He caused it to happen unexpectedly. And it is a blessing! He's giving us another precious gift, not a burden.

You have the power of encouragement or discouragement on your tongue! Remember that today and bless others!

New Addiction

If you don't read MoneySavingMom yet, you're probably crazy, but if you do, you've probably seen the links recently for coupons for free Frutista Freeze drinks at Taco Bell. We tried them after church on Sunday (we used 2 of the 3 free coupons our computer printed) and they are SO, SO, SO YUMMY! I know now why they give out freebies; in order to addict a person who will be a lifelong customer! I hope to print out many more of these coupons from my relatives' computers because I will be there a lot during the hot days of July when I'm hugely pregnant! But even if I have to pay the regular price of $2 to get one, it will be so worth it now and then for a treat. In order to use your freebie coupon you have to buy something else. Since I hardly ever go to Taco Bell I didn't realize how tasty and filling their burritos are. For $1, I can get a huge and delicious burrito, and a free Frutista Freeze with the coupon! That's what I call a frugal meal!

Wedding Gift Idea

My mom and I were invited to a bridal shower last minute this weekend. In between all the company, as well as our yard sale, I was hard-pressed at first to think of a nice, but inexpensive gift for someone I really don't know all that well. I have lots of baby gifts and general gifts on hand, but no wedding gifts. If I had had the time I would have made Bride and Groom beach towels but there wasn't an opportunity for that.

So, I racked my brain and called my mom with an idea. She shopped for the stuff while I was at our yard sale and then we quickly threw it together in the thirty minutes between my yard sale and the bridal shower. We came up with a cleaning bucket of natural cleaning supplies for the new bride. I wish someone had given me one when I was a new bride as I didn't know all about natural products back then.

Here's what we put in the cleaning bucket:

Scrub Brush

Dusting cloths

Baking Soda

Bottle of Vinegar

Two Spray Bottles (one for the vinegar and one which I filled with Dr. Bronner's soap and water I had on hand)

Mr. Clean Disinfectant wipes I had gotten free at Walgreens a few weeks ago

Mini broom and dustpan

I also threw in a cute little jar of my homemade powdered laundry detergent and all my recipes typed out for homemade natural cleaners and detergents. We added a homemade wedding card, tied a ribbon around the bucket and we were ready to go! By shopping at Family Dollar and splitting the cost it ended up being a very nice, but inexpensive gift!

*If I did it again I would throw in some lemons and some homemade olive oil/lemon spray for dusting.

Pregnancy Pics

Pics of me on Mother's Day (in the Gap shirt I got off e-bay brand new for $1! I love it!)

Do not be deceived. I don't look that pregnant from this front view, but from the side.......

Stay tuned for a side shot coming sometime this week! You'll be amazed at how different someone can look from different angles or in different outfits!

*Sidenote* The brown skirt is my non-maternity one and I'll confess that I wore it to church with a rubberband holding it together, and this rubberband popped off a couple of times! This is how desperate I am to wear a skirt. I have NO maternity skirts (the one I bought at a yard sale a few weeks ago ended up being too small even though it was labeled my size.) I am tired of wearing pants, capris, and shorts, but I have not found any maternity skirts online or in stores or at yard sales or any sewing patterns for maternity clothes, except for one super short mini skirt someone loaned me. Of course the mini skirt had to be the one skirt that fit and I tried it on and said, "I can't believe anyone would dare wear something this short while pregnant!" To which my hubby replied, "I can't believe someone would wear something that short even if they weren't pregnant!"

Busy Weeks in May

Anna and Ali watch Mr. Buckmeyer trim the horses hooves in a barefoot cut so they don't have to wear horseshoes the day before Colter and Anna went riding in the mountains all day with Dad.

Saying Goodbye is hard to do! We'll see Uncle Coco again at Christmas time!

Our new double jogger! With it I can waddle around town a little easier than with our other double stroller.

The yard sale corner in town. Everyone puts their box here with the address and info on it and all the yard sale-ers come to the corner and write down the addresses. Free advertising! You'll find me at this corner almost every Sat. morning at 8 am jotting down sales!

Dad grilling hamburgers. Notice that Wyoming is green one month out of the year!

Well, our time with Colter and Anna was MUCH, MUCH, MUCH too short! I knew the time together would fly by but I am still amazed at how quickly it was over. Anna got to experience a lot of the west in a short time and hopefully wasn't too weirded out by my family. Since I wasn't with Dad the whole time he was with Anna I have no idea what kinds of things he said to her, but she seems to like us anyway! There are very few women on this earth who I would say are worthy of my baby brother but Anna is definitely one of them and it's exciting to see God writing their love story.



I'm looking forward to staying home more this week as we were at my folks' for supper most evenings and doing lots of things during the day as well, which cut into Jer's naps. He still refuses to give up those morning naps, which is fine, but makes it harder to plan activities when company is here. He ended up skipping morning naps the first few days and was a crab because of it. It was nice not to have as much food mess in my kitchen last week and I only did dishes once last week (my hubby did them once too) but it was still tiring to chase the kids around my parent's house and clean up after them there as well as helping with all of the meals made over there. It was a blessing that my parents fed us so much as it saved on our grocery bill!



Saturday my friends and I had a yard sale together. I feel it was a success because though it was a ton of work to get ready for, we all got rid of lots of junk and came away with $30-$50 in cash each. I made around $40 but spent $10 on my friend Shiloh's double jogging stroller. I've always wanted one and I'm so excited to have found one for such an unbelievable price. You can sometimes find the nicer ones at yard sales for $100-$150 and they can be up to $400 new! There were a couple of minor problems with it that my husband quickly fixed and we've already been out walking the town with it. I will say I discovered that it's width is the same size as the Safeway doors in town and you have to manhandle it and squeeze it with all your might to get in and out of the store!



Today I had nursery duty and missed the sermon due to cranky/fussy kids. I also had to make a big run to the town nearby to hit the sales at a few stores since the rest of the week is too busy for that. So, it definitely didn't feel like a restful Sabbath day! Tomorrow should be better as I can stay home all day, get laundry done, and try to de-clutter and unwind from the yard sale and the busy week with family. I'll be watching a little 6 month old guy tomorrow and Wednesday all day, and am looking forward to it since it's been awhile since I've held a little baby. Good practice for my kids too! Friday we are leaving for Billings, MT where we will spend the weekend with my incredibly fun aunt, uncle, and cousins and we will get to see my sweet cousin Ashlee graduate from High School Home School. I also have to squeeze a few doctor's appointments in this week (prenatal exam and kid's well-check-ups!) May sure is a busy month and it has flown by!

Thanks Mrs. E

In thanking friend Laura for tons of coupons, I forgot to mention a friend who recently sent me coupons also, so THANK YOU MRS. ERICKSON!!! This dear friend began sharing her coupon stash with me long before I got into serious couponing and still continues to sent them now and then even though we've lived thousands of miles apart for a few years. Just wanted to say, "It's your fault I'm now a coupon nut!" Thanks again Sherah!

Homemade Laundry Soap

I've been making my own laundry soap for 4 months now and I love it! I like the fact that my soap is unscented (scents bother both King Jo and I) and it's environmentally friendly and so, so, so much cheaper. I've been doing the liquid stuff that turns into a thick slime, but my friend Heather inspired me to try the even faster way: powdered laundry soap. It's a 5 minute job and I made enough to last me 3-4 months. I didn't average out the cost but I'm guessing it's about 1 cent a load since it's the same ingredients as my liquid soap recipe and that was the price average for the liquid soap.

I grated two bars of Ivory soap with my cheese grater by hand. Then I added 2 Cups of Washing Soda, 2 Cups of Borax, and stirred it up. I keep my homemade laundry soap in an ice-cream tub with a lid on it. 2 T. per load seems to do just fine getting my laundry nice and clean! Since our apartment building has a high-efficiency washer and I usually do a double rinse and use hot water I haven't noticed a problem with the dry stuff not dissolving or flaking on the clothing. If you use cold and have an old washer this might happen and you may have to try making the liquid kind! To make the liquid kind you need to boil two cups of water on the stove, and add 1 bar of grated soap. Stir on medium until mostly dissolved. Pour into a large bucket and add one gallon of hot tap water and 1 Cup of Borax and 1 Cup of Washing Soda. Stir well for a few minutes and then put into old, empty detergent containers or an ice-cream bucket. Let sit overnight. Will turn into a thick slime. Use 1/4 C. per load.

Pics of our Week Thus Far...

Colt had to get dressed up all snazzy in a suit to speak in two churches last Sunday.

Since I didn't dare ruin my camera by taking it swimming with us, I only got a pic of the outside of the pool building (Ali and Jer are eating crackers on the steps).

Togwotee Pass has unbelievable amounts of snow even in May. We parked the car on the turn-out and the snowbanks on the sides of the road were over our heads. It was a cold and snowy day so Mama and Jer took a nap in the car and Ali had a blast snowmobiling for an hour with Grammy.

We went out for Mexican food after church on Mother's Day. Here, my dad challenges Anna to an arm-wrestling competition while my brothers (Grant, the curly locks on the left) and Colter, look on.

We've been having fun getting to know Anna and seeing my brother Colter! Unfortunately for Anna, who left 95 degree temps in Honduras, the Wyoming weather has been icky and cold a lot of the time. She got to try snowmobiling for the first time, drive all night in a blizzard for the first time to get here from Denver, got to see the Tetons, went swimming in the mineral waters of Thermopolis, try four-wheeling, and tomorrow they'll go for a long horse ride. She's a very sweet young lady.

Confessions.....

The other night I was very exhausted and had done lots of running around, gone to a church supper, cleaned for my mom, and still had to shop for a week's worth of company groceries at 10pm and make homemade caramel rolls. Even though I'm frugal, I'm also all for the simple life and realize my limitations when I'm dead tired with pregnancy. So, I determined I would just buy some Rhodes caramel rolls in the freezer section and pop them in the oven the next morning, eliminating my need to stay up all hours of the night making rolls. I thought to myself, "This would be an excellent blog post about how although frugality should be the norm, desperate times call for desperate measures! I'll surprise my blog readers with how non-frugal I am today!"

However, when I got to the freezer department and noticed that it would cost me at least $9 to go the Rhodes rolls route and even more than that to buy rolls from the bakery the next morning, I had to do some quick thinking. I remembered my rapid-rise dinner roll recipe and decided to just adapt that to the caramel roll recipe so that they would only take an hour start to finish in the morning, but would still be super cheap and yummy homemade. It worked out wonderfully although they were slightly doughy (I could have left them in the oven for just a few more minutes).

So, I do confess that my frugality can fluctuate. I'm not so frugal that I can't ditch frugality when circumstances call for it. Yet, I'm not so carefree or so desperate that I will pay astronomical prices either! I confess that while I'm not always 100% frugal, I am frugal enough that it forces me to be creative, rework the menu, or change plans to do what is reasonable for the budget. Hasn't it been said that invention is born out of necessity?